People Say

People say, you should... and you shouldn't do this or that. They can see all the things that are wrong about what you do or think or feel but they are not "doing" it. They may be right ideally but you are in a place that is all your own and you are there for your reasons alone. And  while you dearly appreciate their good will in giving you just advice, you know that you are where you are for yourself, your needs and your goals. They may be impossible for others to understand or approve of, but here you are continuing on your own path knowing that if they wait patiently, one day, they will get it. They will see what you see and why you did what you did.  Where your destiny leads is perfectly clear to all the advisors, and you know there are right but it is the travel down that pathway to that end that matters to you. You will end up in the right place or perhaps the wrong one, but getting there is your choice. It is your way and even if it turns out badly, you have tried it. This is all very intrinsic sounding but applied to a real situation, it applies! So what can you say to those telling you that you should or shouldn't make that choice? I guess, telling them, yes, they are right but that you have to choose your own route toward achieving that end but that you hope that they will remain supportive as you set out on that journey that may or may not turn out well. They have to know that you want to take that chance, step off that edge to test yourself. If you don't, you will never know if it could be achieved, if happiness could be found. If things turn out for the worse, at least you know that it was not to be. You learned another direction to go on, another choice to make, another turn in the road to follow.  Be it a young person striking out on their own, a couple fighting the odds in their relationship, a job matter or a personal one, my advice is that once you know what you want and have thought how you want to get there, take your chances.  Regret is not something honorable to live with.