Parameter Perimeters

There are parameters and perimeters and the latter must surround the former. When dealing with the Confirmed Bachelor, the perimeters are clear while the parameters are rather profound. Usually the elder bachelor is the most challenging. And yet there are women who attempt to change the CB into something more malleable and manageable. This is an impossible endeavor from what I have witnessed from afar. I have seen a perfectly lovely lady with the best of intentions and the most gentle of persuasions, try to convert a Confirmed Bachelor into the semblance of a mate or at least a guy who will get down on bended knee. It is a long and difficult path. The CB or Confirmed Bachelor is as malleable as iron and once molten, becomes fixed firmly and when re-molded is only all the more resistant. The gentle lady of whom I speak, does not give up but doggedly spends her life attempting to cajole the CB, using all of her wiles, to bring the chap down. He takes it all in smilingly and pleasantly but does not budge an inch. The problem is not in the attempts, the problem lies in the attempter. She should give up.  If you can't bag the man in the first couple of years and get him down the aisle, it is highly unlikely he will ever trot up to the altar. Every wile known to man and woman will not get him there. So what to do? The answer is watch the perimeters of the relationship and stay within them and be content with what you have. He is. He loves being exactly where he is. He doesn't have to take on the responsibilities of the married man with home and family and all of their demands. He is free to do personally precisely what he wishes without criticism or direction or outside costs other than those he chooses. He can flit off without a moment's notice or care. He worries only about himself and his ego. What more could anyone want? Ladies if you don't want to be a female Confirmed Bachelor, look around for someone who adores the idea of cutting lawns, being paternal. painting walls and sitting across from the same face at breakfast every single solitary day for the rest of his life. Being a single man or woman, is at a certain age, a delightful matter. Rising alone in the morning to putter about in a bathrobe, coffee in hand deciding whether to read a book or write an e mail or go out in the afternoon is a heady life style. And best of all, to meet up with your counterpart, another CB, for lunch or tea or a walk in the park or something more interesting, is your decision and yours alone. If you can beat 'em, these CBs - forget the frustration of trying to "catch" them and "keep" them. Get inside the perimeter and join 'em!