Love Lately?

A widow has a chance to observe other singles since most of her melee are these. In the older range, women singles are mostly out there hoping for the ideal male to come along on his white charger and whisk her off to his castle in the sky. I have yet to see that happen. What I do see, consistently, are desperate ,"hungry eyed" females doing anything and everything to find their man. They get a make-over, a new hair-do, up-dated wardrobes and worse, join "meet markets". And then there are the pretend-married women who go with a man for years acting as "the wife" with no hope of a certificate. One sad, thin, chestnut auburn, member of a "meet market",  told me about her first dozen or so experiences in the man-hunt game. "We met for coffee but I knew he didn't like me right from the first."  To me, that is the most demeaning kind of thing anyone could tolerate. First, to be so desperate as to put oneself out there for "sale" is embarrassing. Second, to have to meet under  artificial circumstances is tragic and third, to sit and converse with a guy  with whom you obviously got an F for failure on your personal self, is disgusting. These individuals' reasons for sinking to such levels is apparently loneliness. Loneliness is that empty space and silence you meet when you come home. It's sitting in your parlour watching television or reading and there is no one with whom to discuss the material. There is just you for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Going out? Forget it. A table for one at a restaurant even though you read a book, is worse than your own dinner table set for one. So what to do? First of all, get out somewhere. Go shopping, have coffee on your own, join things such as classes, groups and sport events. Just get out there and most of all enjoy yourself. Nothing is more attractive than smiles and laughter. It is highly unlikely you are going to find a male companion at your age anyway, to be brutally frank, so give it up. Even if you do find one, he is likely to be in questionable physical shape. Some of the old men looking for a woman want a housekeeper/gardener and nurse. There are much worse things than loneliness. Cases of women involved in family squabbles, the new old woman being the intruder according to the off-springs' limited concepts, occasions when the man is abusive after  the marriage, aging health matters: all of these are realities that can make late love problematic. Perhaps it is best to simply enjoy friendships and companionship and leave the late love to the few lucky ones who do find it.