Old Guys/Old Girls

There are lots of old people out there who are lonely and want a companion who could be a lover or at least a very good friend of the loving kind. But how do you access this likely-to-be pool of quietly desperate people of upper age who, other than the fashion restrictions of measuring tapes or weigh-in scales, have great mental and physical possibilities but feel too young for Senior Centres. They are intelligent, well-educated and informed men and women who can't see themselves doing jolly floor exercises for their joints or permitting themselves to be hunched over low cost, low tasting lunchtime soups and sandwiches at those kinds of places that bore them to ... well enough of the negatives. What most old chaps are looking for is a swinging young woman who will cling to them as Sugar Dad and put up with their snoring and bad hearing and other bodily functions that aren't palatable. Those fellows are dreaming, and when they come to realize that young women want young men or old men who are filthy rich, they settle into looking around at what's available close to their own  age. What they will find is not your shapely lithe old chick who is pretty, but mostly rather plain ladies who are kind and decent and affectionate and who fully understand who and what you are, men. Women have their ideal man in mind, too, but most of them are too practical to dream of a grey Prince Charming. The women who are old don't dream the same way as old fellas. They just want a nice man around, one who keeps himself groomed and isn't an old crank. They don't mind if he limps a bit and if he snores, does it in another room. All she wants is a nice companion who has good manners and treats her sweetly, who appreciates her cooking and doesn't mind her few extra pounds and wrinkles to match. Both of these old people have put their dreams of Mr or Miss Ideal out of their minds and are ready to simply enjoy the company of someone around to banish their lonely days. Meeting each other is the big problem. On-line dating might seem as easy as it costs, but it isn't. There is the awkward part such as meeting each other for coffee somewhere cheap. That, in itself, is embarrassing when, in your lifetime, you shunned such places as gauche. But you promise to try.  After duding up to meet the member of the potential old partner-to-be game, there is the nervousness and fear of rejection and the seeming silliness of it all. Most of these "dates" just don't happen for these reasons. We sit and hope and wait. In the meantime, there's always Netflix.