Oh Man, Men!

There's a lot of talk about men doing immoral things  to women lately and it kind of makes me wonder about males and if they really know how to behave with women. I worked with men, and women, for thirty years in my career and I do not recall any inappropriate gestures or comments during that time. I was a teacher, and perhaps because we worked with a code of ethics it was more clear what one should do or not, with fellow workers as well as students. Yes, I did happen to be in schools where there were child abusers unbeknownst to me at the time, but all the normal men I worked with were helpful and courteous. It leaves me thinking that most men likely have no idea how to "treat a lady" and perhaps we parents and others ought to draw up a list of behaviours for men. Women are taught by their mothers and other family members about what is ladylike, but I don't recall any of my male cousins speaking of their training in proper dealings with women. They were good men and I suppose they had some kind of code to be so. I would think fathers might take this on if they specifically know what social behaviours are correct for their sons when with women.  Mothers can take that job on, too, along with fathers. Rather than merely rant about it, women usually try to find solutions to problems. I guess what a lady wants is respect for her personal space and the privacy of her body. Courtesy requests very little other than ordinary decent conversation and if a compliment is given, that it not have sexual connotations that will embarrass a woman.  As to touching or grabbing at another human being, that's not what you do with anyone, without permission of the verbal kind. Sneaky contact  is what sneaks do, and they are obnoxious, abusive  creatures, not men. Mothers and fathers need to teach their boys that locker room words and stories are not real and that they are something guys might for some reason, do in locker rooms but that it should stay in the locker rooms. As to males on the job, thinking that they can influence females and can speak to them or use them any way they wish, they are in for a big surprise. Not any more for those kind of fellas. And not they, nor their company, will appreciate"bad press". Females also have  responsibility in that, while they have the right to dress and go about freely without concerns over male comments or gestures, they, in addition, should make their boundaries clear and not be labelled for doing so. It is all simply a matter of an on-the-job respect, one employee to another. It will take time to change, but now that so many women have come forth with downright disgusting tales of male bullying, it will change and the quicker, the better for everyone.