Whining

Sorry, for the term, but it behooves me to read in the daily news that some who are lucky enough to have escaped with their lives after a bad experience take their worries to the press. It makes headlines but why? Sue fodder? Do dollars really pay for it?  Personal trauma seems to me to be a rather private issue, one that is kept within private circles, not blared out to the general public. A broad public tragedy is naturally public business but individual ones are certainly not of my media interest. It's okay for the people who spend their lives moaning and groaning over things they can do absolutely nothing about.  I guess coming from a place where, in The Day, we had to grit our teeth and work out our own ways of dealing with bad things and found that, eventually, "getting over it", worked.  Everyone has experiences that are unpleasant and sometimes downright tragic, but where the "getting over it" takes place is within our own selves. And yes, we are strong enough to do it. It is a natural strength built into all human beings to call on. If we wish to. No matter how many visits with psychiatrists and weeper shoulders, the solution to a bad time, ends up with the sufferer who decides to stop wailing and get on with it. I am not a fan of the "just get over it" clan because, of course,  it isn't that easy to do, but I do think that given too much crutch time, one becomes dependent upon it. I know a few people who spend their entire lives trying to "find" themselves in going on retreats and to forums and counselors and doctors and gurus. The ending of their on-going problems is taking on or throwing off their burdens all by themselves. Too much navel gazing can't be stepping over the discomforts of trauma and finding your feet. Sure, you are going to dream about it and re-experience the event but that's natural and the stuff you have to live with, and it's okay. With patience, your "cure" will happen naturally. Pills and hours of yakking with someone else helps perhaps, but the day will come when they don't work and you either accept that the bad thing is part of the past, not the present or you go on crutching forever. You, alone, own it and cling to it, and no one else can fix it but you. And you can find a way all by yourself by being kind to yourself and believing in your own beautiful and strong, self.