Bully The Bullies

I don't have much sympathy with bullies. I know that those who study the issue have all kinds of excuses about why the person is a bully and that it's not really their fault because poor souls have had a troubled life and on and on. That doesn't wash with me when in fact it gives only the bullies an excuse for why they do what they do and doesn't stop it.  I worked in schools many decades and saw the effects that bullies have on their victims and also that they don't stop no matter what school actions are taken. Bullies simply find another way to bully. Some of the bullied children carried the serious bitterness they felt as kids into their adult lives. It coloured them for life. Being bullied constantly with no support from peers who for some unknown reason side in with it out of fear or abetting it for their own sick personal reasons, creates indelible scars. The whipping boy attitude when groups hang around witnessing bullying, even cheering it on, give some warped kids a peculiar kick watching it. They are still children, however, albeit older ones and need guidance in ways to understand what's happening to them as watchers. And then there is the adult bully who practices on their own children and partners. Bullies don't stop bullying as they grow up and efforts to make the hardcore kind quit, don't work. I know bullies and you do, too, and they know how to disguise what they do in very elaborate ways especially those who instill such fear in their partners that it is a life-threatening matter. School bullying should be a crime, no matter how young the bully is. Schools can't do much about it because kids stick together afraid to report what happens when teachers aren't around. Bullying is an art among bullies. Their intimidations happen subtly. They become masters at what they do, thus they make it their lifetime profession. We all know those who have suffered under bullyship and it is frustrating to see. In a situation I know of, there was no convincing the woman to leave her bullying husband. Even the police department threatened to put a stop to it after a vicious physical attack. And when the physical attacks stopped, the verbal ones became even more devastating because they were constant, not the usual bully/romance periods. In the situation I speak of, it went on a whole lifetime and the victim had either to live with it or leave. It sounds simple to just leave a situation, but it is not simple. It is a devastating event in a life. And help that comes via government assistance is limited. This woman told me that it was easier to put up with her husband's bullying attacks than to divorce. Divorce is expensive and still  hard on families even though not as much as the attacks. It was her decision but her children suffered over their lifetime and one became a bully in his marriage while the others were severely affected emotionally for the rest of their lives. I wonder why we don't make bullying a criminal act in schools. The parents should be held responsible and long term treatment for their bully be made mandatory. The harm bullies do is, in fact, the murder of a victim's well being  for their whole lifetime and needs to be treated as an actual effect, not as we see with a chat or pat on the head and shaking of hands as "in the principal's office".