Friend Divorce

Friends are one of the most important parts of our lives. We gain them from early life until the day we leave life. Along the way some friendships come and some go. Others last a lifetime. A friend is someone we bond with, one we have and never forget, good or bad, long or short. In my time on earth I have had many friends and all of them occurred naturally. If you asked me how they began, I wouldn't be able to tell you. Friendship happens overnight and at other times, it grows slowly. My early family moved constantly, never very far away, but to a new house, another neighbourhood. My younger sister and I, went to a new school every one or two years until our mid teens when we  protested to our father so long and loudly that my parents, my mother in particular, stopped her habit of moving to a "better" place. The only cure from the "moving" sadness was finding new friends. Along the way, I learned to be more selective about friendships. I wanted them to last no matter where we went. I found out, as well, that it's okay to turn off friendships that are not healthy for your personal life path. Today I "divorce" a friend. I didn't want to hurt my  friend but I had to be honest and ask for cooperation and understanding. I had to enlist my friend in this breakup because our relationship had to end. My once friend did nothing wrong. It was simply that I was heading down a path that wasn't mine. It was that of my friend's. It nagged at and bothered me for some time. Friendship unlike romance should be honest and helpful under any circumstance, because there are never, nor should be material assets at stake. Friendship is a cloud: delicate and impermanent. The parting journey of friends is sad, but in its way, as beautiful as a memorable sunset.