Men and the L Word

Women say, he doesn't say "I love you" enough - or at all! There is a lesson there. If they won't, they don't. So what are we women to do? Think about it and learn. If men don't say it perhaps they "say" it some other way. I believe that they prefer to show "I love you", they aren't ones to do much talking about their feelings. Maybe we'd better take a look more at what they do and not what they say. It's show and not tell time. Do you feel the love? Is he there for you? Does he amuse you and care for you only? Is he affectionate at the right times and thoughtful at others? That's love. Okay but how do we live without that word? First you have to foster love by inviting it in. Say the word yourself and if he ever let's it slip out, tell him how much it meant to you. Rather than say what he isn't doing, compliment him to the hills on what he is doing right. Allow yourself that generosity if you love him. Forgive occasionally. Case in point: he makes plans and you prepare yourself for them. You work at your appearance for the event and go to a lot of trouble that no one asked you for. That's your responsibility and not something to rant: "look at all the fuss I went to just for this event, you heel, and now you are backing out". If he's the type who makes a habit of not doing what he says he will, get used to it or get a new guy. The Girl Guides  say Always Be Prepared and that can carry over into adult life. Be prepared but don't let disappointment destroy your life. What's more important - being in your new dress or being with him.  However, the guy who makes this sort of thing a long-term habit needs the baseball solution -to be told that you give three strikes, and then you are out - of the relationship. Most men into sports understand a "strike system".  The hard part is carrying it out - but hey, there are other games in town.  There are other fields and other players.  You deserve better -the L word also stands for a Life - yours!