Lines In The Sand

When I asked a man who flirts with almost every woman he sees, why he does such things as though  it's like drawing a line in the sand knowing that the waves will make it disappear, he answered, it's only flirting; it means nothing. His answer made me think. What I came up with, is that men see flirting differently than most women do. Women consider someone who compliments them as being, perhaps bold, but nevertheless somewhat sincere. The only women who don't, are flirts themselves and know the darker rules. To these types, it is just something to do. Both of these jaded flirt unfortunates, think that telling someone he or she is attractive, is simply the art of a game. But it's an unfair one. "Nice" women don't see a flirt as a game-player. The better woman rises above game-playing-romantics. She sees a flirt as a possible choice for her to make. She, or he for that matter,  may either respond in some way or completely ignore the  comment. The one doing the flirting should, however, if one uses this form of introduction ploy, have some substance prepared behind the words. First, if you are in a relationship, you have no business flirting with anyone. Second, if you are out with a person, you break the rules of decorum. Third, if you make a comment about how fetching another person is, you should be able to follow through with tangible reasons why it was spoken. There being none, you should be prepared to indicate so by making a laugh or other gesture to show that you are merely joking. And that's fine. The flirts who are constant and unrelenting bother me. They toss out flirtations broadcast, as though they are penny candies. They have no sensitivity for whom they aim at or when, how or even why. Their well rehearsed words  just roll out like an endless threadbare carpet. They chat up every restaurant server, bar tender and store clerk they meet and do so indiscriminately as though it is expected along with the bill at the end.  Of course this applies to women as well, those who sidle up to their prey, blink their eyes and make other gestures they think will attract. It is common practice  for workers in some lines, to flirt in an effort to increase their tips or sales. The old server skill such as touching the customer's hand or shoulder when presenting the cheque or the fashion femme who tells each customer that the item is "so you darling!" may appear to work but that tactic treads the line of trickster rather than seeing a repeater in a client. Sincerity works much better. To make a truly good impression, pick out something unique and positive about the one you are focusing on and make the flirt not only credible but memorable. That could win the reward you are looking for. It is no line in the sand.