Loyalty/Love - Not Equal

When one is in love, there is always loyalty. But watching a nouveau kind of show about "mansphere", I learned that the two aren't synonymous. They are alike but not the same and they don't have to be. In the show, a couple of cybericon  males (or as they see themselves, alpha be-maned lions)  compared notes, during the interview by an older, clearly traditional man,  on marriage and love/loyalty. In their eyes, the two don't meld. But then, what would they know since their entire lives are based on someone telling them how wonderful or terrible they are, while they rake in the proceeds of their ad sponsors and live like billionaires. (Part of what our future young streaming citizens appear to enjoy.) As silly as it was, "silly" since those folks don't last a long time on the box, big or small, it did bring some thoughts to mind. Does love require loyalty or vice verse, and is loyalty needed to love? There are huge numbers of married folks that I have encountered in life and reading/viewing, who live in loyalty while the love part has receded far into the background. It's natural. To be "in love" forever and a day, is rare and almost impossible. Love is not a static matter. Love is like a ballroom sparkle ball of mirrors that reflects all that it sees and love can change in what it "sees". And that is normal and okay, as long as loyalty is present. What causes problems is not the love, but the loyalty aspect. Love, once the true kind comes along, doesn't die. It just doesn't. It can't be killed because even if it's knocked down, it rises again.  Loyalty, however, is a different and delicate matter. At work, you can love it or hate it, but work needs a certain loyalty to do. I know a doctor who hates his life in the profession but he is in love with it. He stays with it not out of loyalty but of love. Love is more than skin deep, it can take over and become one's very breath. An object of love can betray or die or disappear, but love is without the power of reasoning; it stays stubbornly on and on like a scar that never disappears completely. Loyalty on the other hand, can change and never again be seen. It's merely a moon, and not, as love, a sun.