Pyrotechnic Emotions

Pyrotechnic emotions or explosions of feeling pent up are usually the result  of a bundle of unsaid things. You know the elephant under the carpet tale. Strangely, these gripes are not the result of what has been done but of things one thinks have been done that cause the collateral damage. And often what one thinks has been done is actually what one does all by oneself to oneself. If you've been the receiver of an "explosion",  it is big surprise and an unpleasant one to be sure. Why are we inclined to allow inner feelings to fester away inside rather than get them out there early before they become a volcano that erupts? How much better it is to talk it out rather than to hide behind pride and the fear of facing the truth. Truth requires looking frankly at oneself and that isn't easy. Yes, looking at oneself, not at others. Personal jealousies, envies,  sore spots and all sorts of other internal flaws roil around inside because we  fear having to look at our own weaknesses. "See what you made me do?" is a famous very bad excuse. No one makes you do anything. You choose to do or feel it, all by yourself. Your insecurities are not the fault of others causing them. They are your "kids"; you "birthed" them. Okay, so how do you pick up the pieces and fix the problem?  First, admit to yourself what is bothering you and why you reacted inappropriately. Second, find out how you can fix yourself in order to heal this problem that you have. Third, if you exploded, go to the victim and apologise, then report what happened and how you plan to change the situation. Don't tell them what to do but what you will do. This might include discussion about what is bothering you. Their forgiveness and understanding may be the first step to cure. But your understanding of yourself is tantamount. These are very hard jobs in clearing up the mess, but that's the only permanent way. Burying the issue just makes that elephant grow bigger. You have to respect yourself and hope that others will reciprocate. If they don't, they're the ones who have work to do.