Honeymoon Period or Period.

There is something called the "honeymoon period" and it is so very true. Just about any situation contains this feature. The sales pitch is part of it. There is a sweetness about the romancing of a product and as you approach the actual signing on the dotted line or the shelling out of cash, the honeymoon is over and reality marches in. Take the purchase of a car or other larger priced item such as a home, for example. The show room effect is a dream, all shiny and containing every kind of amenity and decoration. There is music and fashion and light and a certain scent in the air that makes you feel rich and relaxed. After all, you are "just looking". The more serious your deal becomes, the less you feel the call of the pretty accoutrements, and the more the pull of your budget. When finally you determine the actual price of the item in front of you and are invited into the elegant glassed-in office with its cosy armchairs, you begin to realize that there is an end to romance and a plain door into the real world. First, what you saw in the show room, perhaps may not be what you will get. It has all of the extras and they each elevate the price. The product may have to go on order and that could take weeks before you can drive away or move in. Next all the pretty doodads that are on the show car or home, when paraded into the bill, add up before they can be added on. Decisions have to be made to fit your squealing budget. Finally, you arrive at a price you can handle for this delightful piece of mechanical wonder or dream house deal and sleeves are rolled up to meet insurances, taxes and service packages. But your eyes are still dizzied by the lovely image that is plainly visible through the glass of your salesperson's office or in the glossy picture and eventually you finally arrive at a  high but possible price. There are handshakes all around and out you go to await the great day when you can claim your purchase. You made it through the honeymoon period and are into the marriage. In relationships, it's the same thing. There is the no-one-can-do-anything-amiss honeymoon period and then there is the gradual oozing-in of reality. Sometimes the sweetness of the first call is the beginning of the last one. The test is time and resilience. What you see, is often what you didn't get and when the honeymoon is over and reality strikes, you wonder, can the relationship survive? Learning what was and not just what is, enters in. Day to day stresses occur that cause fractures. Other people come along and interfere with or add to the panorama that is developing. Honeymoons wane just as the real moon does and if the scenario isn't capable of survival, it collapses. It is not something you can predict accurately. There is no rehearsal for reality. It is an immediate experience. The honeymoon period can happen on the job or on a vacation or in the home or in a store. Anywhere. Beware.