Sneaky Petes

Some women complain that their lovers, I am not speaking of marriage here, are Sneaky Petes (no offense to those named Peter, please) and that they cheat. Okay, it happens. Some men can't seem to help themselves and yes, it hurts, but let's take a closer look. It's always good to ask the question, Why. Why do men do it? First, ladies, it isn't your fault and don't let anyone tell you that. The men in question have to take the full and entire blame. But why oh why do they do it? First, for excitement. Does this mean, ladies,  you have to run off to a lingerie shop and stock up on teddies? I don't think so, although it never hurts - but as a booster to your own ego not his libido. Second, they do it because they were - here comes the age-old story - inebriated and didn't know what they were doing. Oh please. Third, it's her fault, she came on to me. That reason has everyone rolling in the aisles. But seriously, why do they sneak around? My idea is that they don't want you to know that they are. That's a no brainer but actually it is true. If they didn't want you around any more, they would simply say bye bye and be gone. They must still want you, therefore, think about it. The ball is in your court so run with it. Honesty is the ref in this game. Go for it and get the truth out there so you can understand what you want and state to Sneaky, what your boundaries are. The fact that he hasn't left altogether means that the door is still open and you, according to the answers you hear, may slam it or leave it open until you know if what's inside is worth keeping. These days, disease is a big concern with having Sneaky Petes who don't seem to think about it. Even such a minor thing as Cold Sore Herpes is of concern, one that is often overshadowed by the scarier ones such as AIDS etc.  Mouth kissing on greeting, instead of hugging, could create a perfect field for that form of Herpes. Faithfulness has other rewards too and it is unfortunate that Sneaky Petes can't see it. They are masochists. They expose themselves to burdens of guilt, of lying as an occupation and the intense ire of those they offend. Talking and thinking about it may not work but it's worth a shot.