Flirt Men

Why do men, and women, for that matter, flirt. I have yet to go on line to fathom what the "experts" have to say about it. Experts being another matter of bloggable debate. Flirting is not meant to entice. It is meant to get the attention, not of the flirtee but of the date the flirter has brought to the event or situation. Dealing with why people flirt is a matter of common sense and the opinion of an amateur analyst is likely just as reliable an authority or, certainly through that experience, valid.  Flirting while a somewhat invitational act, is seldom taken to those heights. Usually, a flirt in the company of a companion, means to create in the other, a tiny jealousy in order to establish between the two, a more tenacious relationship. "If I do some flirting, Blank will value me more" he or she thinks. But what the flirter does not consider, is that to be with a flirt is not only annoying and insulting, but it is also highly comical due to its child-like nature. Watching a flirt in action is seeing a clown at work. When you witness a flirt at its game, one observes the quip that is actually funny rather than flattering to the receiver. In beginning the flirt, we have the comedian "make-up" sans red nose, that comes in the form of leaning-in body dip language, raised and lowered eyebrow movements and fluttering eyelashes. The mouth contains a smirk and a bit of a smile. It all begins with  eye-balling or "scoping" the space to identify the right flirtee. Next, there is the move to get within flirting distance. This can either be accomplished by moving  or waiting about until the victim passes by or hovers in the area. I have seen party goers gradually work their way over to their targets subtly or not so, all the while keeping their eye on the goal. When they achieve it, wary moves are employed until the right moment provides the correct opportunity. A gentle bumping into serves the purpose well.  "Oh excuse me. Well, hello there" sort of thing. Servers often invite such frippery with shoulder tip-touching routines. The latter is waning these days, of course, since all of us realize what servers are up to. The reality is that flirts are those with sadly flagging egos. They need to gather in flattery in the form of attention from the flirtee who may or may not respond positively, so that they can bathe in the glory of being noticed. Few flirts are worth appreciating in the first place. Nothing is worse than tolerating The Flirt for long. To really be successful a flirt, the professional flirtee must be about as good at acting as the flirter. The former could be a server who puts out a welcome sign to count his/her big tip bucks at the end of the day. Flirters tread dangerous ground, however. If the flirt is too direct, or there is hand-flirting involved, it could result in a harassment charge or the worst scenario, a direct slap on the face. A good natured flirtee will jest in return and disappear into the crowd as quickly as is politely possible. The foolish flirtee will think that the flirt is a genuine invitation that is more than a mere greeting word, squeeze and smackeroo on the cheek and may return the gesture. The flirter, if this happens, will often be overwhelmed by the effect of its attentions and find itself embarrassed and confused. To see this happen is quite delightful. It seems to be a natural justice self-meted. How to deal with a flirtatious partner is to ignore it like a pain in the ... well, all things pass.