Fear of Truth

Most of us have a fear of truth. Not the little truths. They're easy to cope with, but the big ones that suddenly reveal something that had never entered your mind.  This kind of truth shocks and stuns and causes a lot of collateral damage. You know the kind. How do you get over this sort of truth? It takes courage that has to be fostered and nourished and grown. What constitutes this harmful kind of truth? It can be that you are fired from your job. Maybe your marriage is over.  Perhaps you found out a mortal illness is now in your life. Or your best friend has betrayed you. Those will do for a start. So how do you get past this? There seems no other answer than Time. No wonder Time is portrayed as a very old man with a long white beard and a worn and weary look on his face. The initial shock of learning the truth causes numbness at the beginning. It's a staring-into-space kind of reaction initially. Then comes the anger, next, sadness and finally, the realization that the clock ticks on and relentless Time stops for no one. He plods on with you dragging at his ankles. Letting go is too hard but being dragged isn't easy either. At some point, you have to let go and find your own way. That's when things can turn either negative or positive. Your choice. Others can't do this for you. Reality being what it is, there is little sympathy and the empathy crowd won't touch it either - unless gowned and gloved. What you are left with is yourself. You will have to get to know that reflection in the mirror and if you are a planner, now is the time.  You can walk along with Time but in your own way. Assess your state and soothe your wounds with a plan.  It should be about you only because it began with you. Revenge will complicate matters and give you added problems to work out. What are you going to do to turn something bad into something "okay". I didn't say good or perfect. Doesn't work that way. Perfection is seldom born out of disaster no matter what Pollyanna says. Make small steps at first to be easy on yourself. Maybe it is just taking a Time Out somewhere nice: a bench in the park, a cafe cappuccino or playing the piano. Start at the shallow end and work your way out. Before you know it, don't look back, you'll be swimming!