Marry Mary, Not

Marry? Elder marriage can lead to problems but there are some women who  have nothing else on their minds but finding a man to marry. They feel that they must have a loving and caring relationship. It works when one is young perhaps, but when the clock has gone 'round many, many times, marriage is likely not the answer.  These dreamy eyed dear ladies hang around places were they might find an elderly gent to entice. Cruises, guided tours, resorts and local bars are fraught with these needy females. Rarely do they  find the right man to cuddle up to on a cold winter's night.  Old men, for the most part, age faster than women physically and it is they who seek someone to comfort them. Many male oldsters who are realisitic enough to realize that the twenty year olds are simply not going to nod their way, hope for a lady their age, with means and good health, so that Mrs. Goody will take care of them. Taking on an elderly male ends up in doing for them: laundry, meals, cleaning and often tending to their medical requirements. In return there may be "company" if the chap can hear what is being said or isn't dozing in his chair with the hockey volume turned up loud enough for the whole neighbourhood.  Old men, once the wedding vows are taken, can turn into Mr. Cranky or Selfish when homebound. They have expectations: meals on time, only their favorite TV programs and going off daily to meet their chrones down at the local. Wise ladies do not marry. They date, and date they should. When you "date", your fella calls on you and you go to dinner or a movie or a concert or have a pleasant evening at home.  At the end of the date, you wave good-bye and he goes home.  He takes care of himself or has someone else do it. You get a good night's sleep without the snoring, yours excepted of course, and if you want curlers in your hair all night, so be it. Your life, your choices are all your own. Freedom si, marriage, no.